When she first arrived in Lagos years ago, her dream was simple: to hustle, work hard, and build a better life. She started small, running a phone booth.
That was when she met him, then a trader selling remote controls, through her sister. He showed interest in her, talked of settling down, and within three months, she was pregnant.
They travelled to the village to perform the traditional marriage rites and began life together as husband and wife.
“I believed in him,” she recalled, her voice breaking. “I carried the family while he went to school. He said if I supported him through Lagos State University and later the Police Spy training, our lives would be better. I agreed, because I thought he would lift us all.”
But instead of stability, she says she has endured years of torment.
After her husband completed his training and began working as a Police Spy, she claims his behaviour changed. “He started calling me an illiterate, saying I was unfit. He beat me so badly once that I had to do a scan; they said my backbone was injured,” she recounted. “I was the one feeding the home, paying bills, and still he treated me like nothing.”
She alleged that he would meddle in her business, changing it without her consent, and whenever she resisted, violence followed. The beatings became so frequent that both families and neighbours grew weary of intervening.
By July 21st, 2025, she could no longer bear it and reported to the Igando Family Support Unit. Mediation failed. “He told me plainly that because he is a Police Spy, he cannot be detained. He said the police will always protect him,” she said.
Her fears grew when, after a meeting with the Divisional Police Officer, he demanded that she leave their jointly built home. The DPO advised that property disputes be handled in court, urging them to keep the peace. To avoid more trouble, she quietly moved into a smaller room in the same house. But the violence escalated.
On September 14th, 2025, she said the attack nearly cost her life. “He tore my clothes, beat me, and pressed my stomach where I have had six children, three via Cesarean Sections. He said he would kill me. I was screaming,” she narrated. “He seized my phone and told me nobody can collect it from him. That I cannot reach the police.”
Locked out of the house, she often found herself sleeping outside, sometimes in a tricycle (keke). When police officers attempted to arrest him, she said he laughed in their faces. “An Inspector cannot arrest me,” he allegedly boasted.
Even worse, she says, he has poisoned the minds of their children. “He tells them I have no power over them. Now they don’t listen to me.”
Her case has since been escalated to the Gender Unit at the Lagos State Police Command in Ikeja. Yet the fear remains.
“I am not educated, I don’t know what else to do,” she pleaded. “I just want peace. I want to live without fear. I call on the Gender Unit, please help me. I trust you will.”
The husband is insisting that she leave their matrimonial home. According to sources, the woman has gone to Igando General Hospital, and the medical report is not good.
