There’re a lot of couples who are probably right now thinking of how dry and drab their sex life had become.
It’s good to realise that there’s something definitely wrong with your bedroom life. Realisation followed by acknowledgment is the first step towards a solution.
The worst set of people are those who live in denial.
Like I’ve always said and argued, one of the greatest factors in making a successful relationship or marriage is sex.
If it comes right down to rating and ranking, I’d say the first factor in a successful marriage is communication, followed by sound sex life.
Communication naturally embraces and covers a lot of issues, including bedroom life. If you have a spouse who’s a tiger or tigress in bed and you guys don’t communicate, you’re way offline in achieving your much-expected end. You’re not on the same page. You both need to be on the same page.
You need to know what makes her tick in bed and she also needs to know what makes you go wow! Haaa! Ohhh! In bed…you get my drift?
When both of you don’t talk about it, it’s like taking a walk down a blind alley. You don’t know what you may run into. If you can’t communicate, open up and talk with your partner. If you don’t talk with your partner, I don’t know who the heck you can talk with!
Rather than start the hunt for a new lover or begin an extramarital affair, which may bring a lot of grief, why not try to work on your bedroom life with your partner?
You just got to work on it if you really care about the relationship.
Look at it this way, if you begin a new relationship, you don’t know what you’re walking into. We’ve always heard wisecracks like…the Devil you know is better than the Angel you don’t know.
And if you’re married, starting an extramarital affair can be expensive. Are you game for such an extravagant lifestyle? Don’t forget, you might embark on the affair for sexual satisfaction, but end up with an unwanted second wife.
It could happen…so easily…she could get pregnant and tell you that she’s not going to get rid of it. What do you do?
You won’t be the first lady/guy to have a relationship where the bedroom was fantastic before but suddenly sucks now.
But the good thing is that you can stop whining and sucking and do something about it. It’s not something to start embarking on fasting and prayers. It’s not something that Baba God needs to come down and do for you…it’s more than manna from heaven.
This is something you and your spouse need to work on…something both of you will derive a lot of pleasure from if it succeeds. It can’t hurt to try.
The first is to try being creative in bed. Stop the routine, boring missionary style of making love and do something crazy. The mind is a creative genius; try whatsoever comes to your mind. But don’t try methods, which could lead to broken hips!
Don’t you just get sick and tired of missionary style? There’re so many good, orgasm-reaching styles that you can do, without even trying out the missionary style for a week.
If you must try out the missionary style, why not try it with the guy sitting on raised chair…seat that has a back… and the babe straddling him? Such style makes it easier for the babe to ride the guy. It increases her pleasure and could make her reach orgasm on time because she’s the one controlling the tempo of the lovemaking.
You can even try it out on the dining table. I bet you, you’d love it. She lies on the dining table.
He stands on the ground of course and drags her buttocks closer to the edge and she opens up to him…he penetrates her. It is usually deep.
This style affords the guy greater penetration. He gets to hold her buttocks firmly, while she wraps her legs tightly around his waist as he begins to pump.
Another missionary style that I dig anytime is the guy carries the babe…raises her…shoots his buttocks forward, propelling his manhood forward and penetrating her…he rides her, just as he stands… while she wraps her arms around his neck…and wraps her legs around his hip…this style needs a lot of stamina and strength from the guy.
It’s a cool one. Go ahead, try it…yeah, that’s it! There you go!
Many people out there are damn good in bed, but other worries of life begin to creep into their relationships, eating into the quality time they ought to put into their relationships.
Start today to use the tricks you have at your fingertips to make your spouse happy and make your relationship better. There’s no guy/babe who does not yearn for and wants a fantastic bedroom life.
It’s a terrible thing to be in a relationship and to start recollecting how it used to be with your ex-lover. You compare your present lover’s sexual performance, and you may find him/her wanting.
Some people may begin to yearn for what had gone…bad! Bad! Bad! That’s how it begins… extramarital affairs I mean!
Yearning for the past…digging into the past…wondering about the one that got away…getting wet…turgid, just remembering…wanting to…ha! If you can recollect how, it was with your past, why not introduce it to your present?
It’s a win-win situation for you. If both of you play your cards right, Lords know how many times you could hit orgasm.
You can rebrand your love life by prolonging your foreplay. Do you know that both of you can reach orgasm through oral sex before penetration? You can begin this year to return favours carried out on each other.
How?
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