By Florence Ubajekwe
As our children begin their examinations and the academic session nears its end, let’s remind ourselves not to be consumed by the pressure of awards or grades.
A child not receiving an award doesn’t diminish their worth or intelligence.
Exams aren’t always the most accurate measure of knowledge, and many variables can affect a student’s performance. I recall hearing about a teacher whose morning quarrel with his spouse clouded his judgment, ultimately influencing how he graded his students. It was a stark reminder that even educators are human, prone to emotions and biases.
Every child learns differently. Some grasp concepts quickly; others take a bit more time. That variation in pace doesn’t make any child less brilliant. Progress should be celebrated, not just accolades. If your child doesn’t receive an award, don’t respond with disappointment or anger. Instead, uplift them—praise their effort and dedication.
I’ve personally made the mistake of comparing my children to others. When they didn’t win awards, I felt let down and unknowingly took it out on them. It hurt them deeply. Thankfully, that experience taught me a valuable lesson. Rather than condemn, I needed to understand. After a heartfelt conversation, I realised my children lacked the necessary support and confidence from us, their parents.
We have the power to change that. By being actively involved—especially during exam season—we can stay beside them during late-night studies, help them stay awake, quiz them gently on what they’ve learned, and guide them in creating study timetables. These actions build not only academic success but emotional strength. In a nurturing, encouraging environment, our children can truly flourish.
Let’s focus on cultivating their self-esteem and nurturing growth at their own unique pace. The most enduring rewards we can offer aren’t medals or certificates—but our love, support, and unwavering belief in them.
