Nigerian women are expected to be many things. They are expected to be wives, mothers, career women, sisters, and tigress in bed; all these rolled into one person!
Even a modern-day machine cannot perform or be as good as this. Many people, especially husbands, forget that their wives are human beings; rather they expect them to be extraordinary persons in all ramifications.
I have even seen men bragging that their pregnant wives wouldn’t dare to say no to pounding their Iyan.
Can you just imagine her pounding Iyan with a bulging stomach? And when you try to correct these men, they tell you that their aged mothers in the villages did the same for their fathers and their mothers didn’t die.
Many of our parents did things that were morally wrong and just because they were our parents do not and shouldn’t make it right.
This is part of the reason we now have what is called education, which many of our parents never had the luxury or time to have.
A friend of mine was telling me that she hated to travel because whenever she returns to Lagos, it would be one sex wahala after another with her husband.
How may you very well ask how?
I did ask too…She told me that anytime she travels, her husband and his children-not her children-would pile up dirty clothes, waiting for a her-dry cleaner that she is-to return and wash them.
Sometimes, when she eventually returns, the clothes would be touching the ceiling; so high that you wouldn’t be able to see the person across.
Rather than wash his clothes by himself, her husband preferred to go to one of those exotic boutiques at Ogba, Ikeja, to re-stock his wardrobe.
A few days after she returned, she would start washing. She told me she used to wash sometimes to the extent that her fingers would become bruised.
Then she would have to stagger into the kitchen to rustle up something for her husband and his kids to eat.
When the man comes home, he would look at the heap of washed clothes, grin and eat his food. Then he would want to plunge into the warm crevices between his wife’s thighs.
Now, this is where the wahala usually starts from. She would complain that she was too tired to even move her legs, let alone to meet him thrust for thrust.
But her husband, the horny son of a gun, rather than understanding, would pounce on her, beating her black and blue, claiming she had gone to have sex with another guy while he was at work!
Can you beat that?
These days, rather than complain, she would lay like a log of wood, praying for him to get it over with so that she could catch a wink of sleep.
Is that the sort of love-making you want to encourage in your relationship?
Not good, I tell you!
If you want her to be springy in bed, try to help whenever possible.
She’s your wife, not your slave! It usually takes two people to make a marriage work. But in Nigeria now, men expect a wife to do everything and sacrifice everything in order to make the marriage work. Why?
Why must the woman give and continue to give? Why must she sacrifice and continue to sacrifice?
Why must she go to church to pray every day for the marriage to work, while the man frolics in beer parlours and Lord knows where else!
What the heck am I trying to say here?
I’m simply saying that women are also human beings and should be treated as such!
She is not a superwoman, a sex doll or a domestic robot, expected to do and be one million things at the same time.
Most career women have problems with keeping their homes because their husbands tend to be jealous.
Some of these men do everything and anything to frustrate their wives climbing the ladder of success.
The jealousy gets worse if the woman is earning far more than her husband. Some men see it as an affront, fearing that the woman may want to lord it over them or disrespect them.
But this is not often the case. It’s better to encourage your wife to pursue her career, for her to be an asset to you than a liability.
Men who suffer from jealousy because their wives appear to be doing better than them career-wise and financially have a problem of the complex.
Maybe inferiority complex?
We should also pray for a loving husband. Some men are good and there are some that take their kids to school and even cook for the kids if they get home before the wife.
How can women manage the home, cook, take care of the kids, build a career and still have time for the man in the bedroom?
For some men, if their wives satisfy them in the bedroom, the woman may as well go and build a skyscraper, they don’t care.
